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Discipline 246Being a fair parent increases your authority

From an article by Child and Family Blog

A research study published in the Journal of Youth and Adolescence in 2019 assessed a diverse group of 697 Brazilian 11, 12, and 13-year-olds once a year for three years.

Disciplinary practices were classified into constructive practices (e.g., removing privileges, reprimanding verbally, grounding) and harsh practices (e.g., threatening, physically punishing , yelling).

Harsh practices actually increased disobedience, possibly because they diminished perceived parental legitimacy. In other words, when parents punished their children harshly, instead of promoting obedience, it made the parents look less credible.

This study also allowed children to differentiate between issues. It is well established that, as children develop, they discriminate between domains over which parents have authority and grant more legitimacy to issues of safety and morality than to issues of convention or personal preference.

In the study, the children were presented with 10 common household rules and asked if it was legitimate for their parents to have that rule. The issues with the highest legitimacy across all three years were substance use and truth telling. The issues that declined the most in legitimacy were media use, curfews, homework, and dating. And the strongest predictor of individual obedience was issue-specific legitimacy. Thus, children obeyed the rules over which they thought their parents had legitimate authority.

The study also asked about parents’ global legitimacy, in other words, whether youth thought their parents had the right to make the rules and whether they trusted their parents to make the right decisions. Youth’s evaluations of global legitimacy also strongly predicted their obedience.

Prior research has established that authorities with high levels of procedural justice are typically legitimized. In other words, if your child thinks you are a fair judge, he or she may obey you because he or she sees you as a legitimate authority figure. However, harsh disciplinary strategies may backfire for the same reasons. Instead of eliciting a healthy fear, they may unintentionally undermine parental legitimacy.

Based on this study, parents should:

  • Avoid harsh discipline because it tends to backfire in the long term.
  • Emphasize procedural justice (hear youth’s perspective, be polite, provide explanation).
  • Stick to issues of morality and safety – it may be a losing battle to enforce other rules.

“One of the most promising ways to bolster parents’ legitimacy is to treat children fairly.”

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From an article by Child and Family Blog, 21/04/2021

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