Empathy & compassion are evolved states of being
Illinois Governor J.B. Pritzker delivered a rather unique 20 minute graduation ceremony address to the Northwestern University Class of 2023, sharing wisdom from the hit television show "The Office" to help send graduates "forward on the right path in life."
The speech is well worth watching if you have time (see below). Here though is a segment:
"I think, 'Would an idiot do that?' and if they would, I do not do that thing." The Office
The entire efficacy of this incredibly useful piece of information hinges upon your ability to pick the right idiot. I wish there was a fool-proof way to spot idiots but, counter-intuitively, some idiots are very smart. They can dazzle you with words and misdirection. They can get promoted above you at work. They can even be elected president.
If you want to be successful in this world, you have to develop your own idiot detection system. As part of the responsibilities of being your graduation speaker, I'm going to share mine. Sure, I'm naturally suspicious of people who never saw the original Star Wars movies but I admit this is not a reliable idiot indicator. No,
the best way to spot an idiot is to look for the person who is cruel.
Let me explain. When we see someone who doesn't look like us or sound like us or act like us or love like us or live like us, the first thought that crosses almost everyone's brain is rooted in either fear or judgment or both. That's evolution. We survived as a species by being suspicious of things that we aren't familiar with.
In order to be kind, we have to shut down that animal Instinct and force our brain to travel a different pathway. Empathy and compassion are evolved states of being. They require the mental capacity to step past our most primal urges.
This may be a surprising assessment because somewhere along the way in the last few years, our society has come to believe that weaponized cruelty is part of some well thought out master plan. Cruelty is seen by some as an adroit cudgel to gain power. Empathy and kindness are considered weak.
Many important people look at the vulnerable only as rungs on a ladder to the top. I'm here to tell you that when someone's path through this world is marked with acts of cruelty, they have failed the first test of an advanced society.
They have never forced their animal brain to evolve past its first instinct. They have never forged new mental pathways to overcome their own instinctual fears and so their thinking and problem solving will lack the imagination and creativity that the kindest people have in spades.
Over my many years in politics and business, I have found one thing to be universally true - the kindest person in the room is often the smartest.
Watch this 21 min video (the above quote is 9 mins in).
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